What Strong Families Have in Common 4

Strong Families Have Good Coping Skills.

They have the rare ability to solve problems together, and always see the big picture. Don’t ever think that families that break up had problems, and that families who stay together don’t. Divorces and dysfunctional families have very little to do with problems. All families have problems.

Break-ups have to do with coping skills.
I bet there are people who’ve been married 30 years or more, and they’ve had problems far worse than a lot of people who’ve divorced. The difference is in coping skills…working thru the problems.
Every family has problems. If divorces were caused by problems, we’d all be divorced. My family has problems, your family has them. Christian families have them, Even Adam and Eve had problems…

--Adam would come home from work, and she would start counting his ribs…just checking! (haha)

They had their problems together, and even suffered the consequences together (driven out of the garden)

Adam and the kids would walk by the garden…and the kids would say, what’s that, dad? “That’s where your mother ate us out of house and home!" (haha)

Not all families respond to problems in the same way. The Chinese language does not have letters, it has symbols. And the same symbol which means crisis, can also mean opportunity, depending upon the context.
And you know, one family can have a problem and see it as a crisis, and another family have exactly the same problem, and see it as an opportunity.

Someone said, God’s best presents He gives to His children are wrapped in problems. The bigger the problem, the bigger the present…if you’re willing to unwrap it!
How we respond to our problems will make or break us! We’ve got to learn to attack our problems together, instead of attacking each other.

So far we seen that strong families have commitment, communion, communication, coping skills, and…


Joshua 24:15
But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.